We could all use some nourishing ideas on how to boost and amplify our self-esteem. Self-care entails many approaches to how we live and experience our lives; however, it’s vital not to confuse self-care with self-improvement.
Although a beneficial tool for our personal development and motivation, the latter can often stem from a perfectionist mind and a belief that “we need to be fixed,” which can erode our self-esteem and perception of ourselves with time. Self-care coach, Gracy Obuchowicz says self-care is different “because it’s about allowing yourself to have a nurturing experience of life right now as opposed to when you work harder in the future.”
Self-care is about the relationship with ourselves and the present moment. It’s about the customized, conscious, and lifelong actions we take for our optimal health and ultimate well-being. Moreover, self-care arises from listening to what our mind, body, and heart require for a fulfilling ride along our life’s journey.
Therefore, what can you do right now to tend to your inner garden and boost your self-esteem? Read on and let these habits guide you through creating the feeling of success within yourself.
1. Define Your Why
One common misconception about self-care is that it requires time, and thus, it might not usually a priority amid everyday life. But if we don’t pause and identify what needs our attention (and proceed with informed action), who else will? Here’s why having a WHY, a mission statement or an unwavering purpose is fundamental to understand ourselves better. Otherwise, you’ll become “a rudderless boat getting buffeted around by the waves of life,” according to Maria Rodale.
Taking the time to recognize (bonus points if you write it down) why you want to practice self-care and how to go about it in your daily routines will help you better identify if the choices you make are aligned with your initial purpose or not. And the good thing is that you can always choose better!
2. Break It Down
Just as self-esteem is the result of the choices, behaviors, thoughts, and habits you create, self-care is about identifying the building blocks that lead to a sense of self-empowerment and personal success. Any small practice or change to your routine can be easily incorporated into your daily life if you break it down into short, actionable strategies. For example, taking three deep breaths every 60 minutes to calm your mind or going for a short walk as the sun goes down a few times a week are terrific ways to connect, pause, and feel good.
In this way, you’ll frequently be celebrating your small victories rather than waiting for the “groundbreaking” shift to occur and transform your life. Remember, self-transformation, self-care, and self-esteem are all about you, the now, and the sum of the thoughts, choices, and emotions you experience daily.
3. Care For Your Body, Mind, and Inner Landscape
Indeed, each part of our inner lives is beautifully interconnected, as I’ve mentioned before. Enter – a holistic approach to one’s well-being. Caring for your body, mind, and intimate panorama means paying attention to the realms of nutrition, food, sleep, movement, skincare, mental health, having a sense of meaning, and even the type of cookware you use daily (among others).
Use my well-being circle to assess how you’re doing in each of these areas. Notice the synergy between these, and if necessary, move confidently in the direction of your best self.
4. Care For Your Community & Family
Again, we’re not only interconnected within but also without. There’s no true self-care if those around us aren’t well too. Spending time with our loved ones, supporting our communities, and making a conscious effort to make this a better world to live in as a human family is paramount to our self-esteem and self-efficacy.
What can you do today to foster more meaningful connections with those around you?
5. Make It A Constant
Aiming to include self-care practices into your everyday life goes back to my first point—your WHY. Yes, it’s essential to cultivate spaces where we nourish ourselves and do what brings us joy daily. But if this doesn’t happen as planned, that’s perfectly fine. You intend to do your best, but if things don’t go as intended somedays, having a flexible attitude, and being compassionate toward yourself are crucial to both your mental and emotional well-being. Strive for the constant, but leave room for the unforeseen.